Chapter 25 - Patricia and Mae

Patricia did not meet Mae for the first three years.
Not once.
That was not permanent punishment declared on the day of my escape.
It was the result of:
Criminal sentence.
No-contact restrictions.
Family-court review.
My safety concerns.
Michael’s own limited parenting access.
Later, Patricia petitioned through proper channels for permission to send Mae a birthday card.
I said no the first year.
No the second.
At three, after reviewing with a therapist and attorney, I allowed one card.
No photographs of me.
No discussion of the attic.
No request that Mae call her Grandma if she someday preferred something else.
The card said:
Happy third birthday, Mae. I hope you like animals and cake.
Simple.
No:
I love you even though your mother keeps us apart.
Good.
I kept it in a box.
Mae could decide later what relationship, if any, she wanted when adults had enough evidence of safety to make options available.
May you like
A child should not be used either to punish an abusive adult forever or to repair the adult prematurely.
Both turn the child into a tool.